I've had a few significant relationships crash because of my partner's crazy spending habits, and/or delusions about income. I've worked hard to get myself into a good financial position, and I feel like I deserve the same. However, it's hard to even discuss the topic without getting accusations of being a gold digger, or at least, "all about finances." I feel like finding someone frugal would be great because we probably have similar priorities that go way beyond money and numbers.
So, frugal folk, I'd like any advice/stories you can offer. Has anyone chosen a partner based largely on their financial ideology? How do you find someone like this? Are there problems with approaching a relationship this way?