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[–]runningblack 58 points59 points ago

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Dude. I understand your anger. I understand you being upset. I understand that it sucks to have your trust broken like that.

But revenge is pointless. If she has any of your stuff then get it back. Then dump her and never speak to her again.

Hell, I'll throw you a bone. You can get your stuff back and then just stop talking to her cold turkey. No formal breakup or anything. Just cut off all contact without any other indication. Cutting off all contact without saying a word to her will mess with her head. You can do that, justifiably.

But don't go out of your way to do more. There's no point. End things formally (or don't) and then cut off and move on.

[–]Sleepysloth 2 points3 points ago

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When guys go cold turkey and blow us off it's realllllly frustrating. That being said, you'll probably fare the best of you decide to use this method. It completely messes with her while also giving you a break from this wench of a woman. She wont care if you cheat because itll givee her reason to break up with you, not the other way around. Also, don't talk to her mother- mothers always side with their children and she might even know what's going on already. She's no good- there are plenty of nice, attractive girls that will take your money without cheating on you.

[–]ThrowawayForTonight[S] 2 points3 points ago

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Yep, for one thing I bought her a new computer a couple of days ago when her old one died completely. I hope I'm fairly justified in keeping that, though I'm sure she'll say it's a present.

[–]runningblack 37 points38 points ago

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Dude, no offense intended, but just curious.

What the fucking fuck were you thinking?

Hell, even the cheating thing aside, you were buying a girl you dated for a total of 6 months computers and vacations?

[–]ThrowawayForTonight[S] 11 points12 points ago

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Moderately high and disposable income vs her zero income. Also I really wanted a holiday anyway. I'd rather have had it with her (at that point, obviously) than any of my friends, so it seemed like a fair bet.

Also, I'm a fucking idiot.

[–]Claclink 18 points19 points ago

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you are asking for girls to take advantage of you. especially because you sound like a goddamn doormat.

[–]smacksaw 9 points10 points ago

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I'm a hetero male and I could use a computer and a vacation. I'm considering hitting on OP. He sounds like a pushover.

[–]runningblack 5 points6 points ago

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Not trying to ridicule man, just more curious than anything else.

I know that, when you have money, it doesn't mean as much to you. But I would be careful throwing around money with a relatively new girl.

And then one who's cheated on you, well, that doesn't need to be stated at this point.

[–]smacksaw 5 points6 points ago

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If you understand "disposable income", now you have to expand that logic to include "disposable girlfriend"...

[–]diversionmary 2 points3 points ago

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Fuck it, it's just money. Move on and forget it. Could be worse!

[–]Brimshae 1 point2 points ago

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Moderately high and disposable income vs her zero income. Also I really wanted a holiday anyway.

I've been known to drag people on trips/vacations before, so I can see where you're coming from with this.

[–]absolutebeginners 0 points1 point ago

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Well you learned, so stop doing this shit in the future. You're just begging to be taken advantage of. Nobody respects a pushover, thus, the cheating

[–]LoriStrode 0 points1 point ago

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I'm so sorry this happened to you. =(

[–]motezuma 7 points8 points ago

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Listen to runningblack. Just grab whatever shit you paid for and split.

[–]MisterMetal 3 points4 points ago

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dude, wtf man. You knew she was cheating on you and you still bought a new computer for her. Grow some balls, be a man and just end it.

[–]dikky 1 point2 points ago

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ask her to invite you over and take the computer back and leave right away

if she calls the cops the most you should do is provide a receipt

[–]eeezeee 0 points1 point ago

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yeah, get that back, THEN drop her.

[–]TK-421DoYouCopy 0 points1 point ago

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yeah, i think its fair to keep that.

[–]workwork1 0 points1 point ago

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take the computer, for sure. Return it even, only been a coupla days. Heck you could probablvy convince her to return it with you if you want to make a cool story about how you want ot get her something better and thenc ut it cold turkey.

Or just take it and mail it to me. I won't even cheat on you.

[–]SirElkarOwhey 15 points16 points ago

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"Revenge is a dish that is best served cold." Get your stuff and stop talking to her. Defriend her on Facebook, block her on your phone and email, don't respond to her in any way. Metaphorically turn your back and walk away, getting on with your life. What she'll want is a dramatic confrontation with tears and everything. Give her ice-cold stony silence instead. Don't call her mom, don't humiliate her in public, just give her dead silence.

[–]smacksaw -1 points0 points ago

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Crocodile tears don't actually hurt her.

[–]acatbutnot 11 points12 points ago

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Your pride might feel wounded currently, but please don't do anything you'd regret later. It may be cliche, but I still think the best revenge is to live a great life.

If she is suffering from any sort of emotional turmoil or drinking problems, you should tell her mom. This is not to get revenge, but to help her get better. Be the bigger person. But don't let her control your life. Getting "even" will only escalate the situation and won't benefit either of you in the long run.

Also, make sure to get tested for any STDs.

[–]eeezeee 6 points7 points ago

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You're better off taking the high road. Sever all ties immediately, and be the adult in the situation.

[–]mobilehypo 7 points8 points ago

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You need to just let it go. Getting revenge isn't what good or smart people do.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points ago

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call her up, break up with her, never see or talk to her again. the end.

[–]jamesneysmith 4 points5 points ago

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Revenge is a bad idea plain and simple. It will come back to bite you in the ass. Be a grown up and just walk away and take your losses as a lesson learned.

[–]hola998 4 points5 points ago

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If you've been the sane one this whole time, I say don't blow it now by trying to get revenge. As good as it would feel, I think it helps your case if the breakup ends up being bad (she sounds like the type).

[–]awesomedudeguy 3 points4 points ago

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Do what you have to do to get any of your possessions back from her, then dump her.

You've got the moral high ground here from being made the fool; don't lose it by trying to punish her. Just get your shit and go.

[–]reverselookup 2 points3 points ago

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Drop the rope.

[–]phycologist 2 points3 points ago

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Don't get revenge. It wont help you feel better. Break up with her, and treat yourself to something nice to alleviate bitter feelings.

[–]cyancynic 2 points3 points ago

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Your "revenge" should consist of repo'ing the computer. That's enough.

[–]Brimshae 3 points4 points ago

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Provided you have the receipt for it....

Call GF over. Have her bring computer over.

"Accidentally" break something on it (think delete /system32). Make sure it's just something software related, so a reinstall will fix it.

Hold onto computer, saying you'll fix it/a buddy will. Take her home later.

Don't talk to her again. Ever. No facebook, no email, no phone, no face to face.

If you end up having to talk to her, and you know their names, ask her how CheatBoy1, CheatBoy2, CheatBoy3, or CheatBoy4 are, then walk away. Just don't take anymore of YOUR time to do anything about it.

[–]k-jo 1 point2 points ago

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Taking revenge is stooping to her level, and in some ways that could be satisfying in itself, being the bigger person will be more satisfying in the long run. I guarantee you, she'll look back in a few years and realize how bad she treated you, and the shit she'll feel when she realizes it will be more than enough revenge. Karma's a bigger bitch than you need to be.

[–]smacksaw 1 point2 points ago

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The only difference between revenge and taking action is petty intentions vs just reasoning.

You should GTFO now, but also let her parents know what's up, lest she end up a complete waste and stuck on their doorstep someday. Do it because you respect them and it's the right thing to do. If you get any personal satisfaction out of it, don't do it. It's no longer real at that point. Don't fool yourself. That why people here say to cut contact: it takes a rare person with real control to do what I've said. Revenge is lack of control. People with no control are pathetic and humiliate themselves. If you just go away, you have control and are not humiliating yourself with petty revenge schemes. If you are truly over it, you can tell her family with the intention of her sorting herself out.

[–]LoriStrode 1 point2 points ago

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Wow. Does she have some kind of mental illness or something ?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points ago

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Karma, dude. It WILL get you. No need to take revenge, just freaking break up with her, and leave. Simple, easy, kind. Regardless of how you've been treated, you can act better than that. Tough to do, but you know it's the right thing.

Here's what you learn - NEVER buy shit for chicks. NEVER lend them money. NEVER. What the fuck's wrong with you? This isn't rocket science. Spend your money on YOURSELF and your FRIENDS and your FAMILY. Buying pussy is 1. not necessary and 2.. poor return on your money. Leykis 101!

[–]JohnnyWeapon 0 points1 point ago

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I hope you realize that you enabled her to behave like this and avoid doing so in the future with other girls.

That said, her cheating is still on her.

Try to collect as many of your own personal possessions (and box up all of hers that you have) before you do anything.

Most people here will probably tell you to take the high road. There was a guy awhile back who posted about catching his gf blowing another guy and he asked Reddit for help in getting revenge. He went through with it and posted a followup. I personally found it absolutely brilliant.

I love revenge. But apparently, most people don't. There is something satisfying about it. Taking the high road is classy and possibly more honorable. But sometimes when you've been wronged, it just feels so fucking good to wrong somebody back equally or worse.

No doubt this will get downvoted, but that's my two cents. If revenge is something that fits your personality, take it. You're certainly justified in doing so and even those telling you not to would probably agree with that much.

[–]Bobsutan 0 points1 point ago

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Alls fair in love & war. Let her have it!

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points ago

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Oh yeah? What did you do?

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[–]n0ggy -3 points-2 points ago

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Nothing major. Just break her computer discreetly (a bit of water on the motherboard). And then cut all ties and communication with her.

[–]Silversuns -5 points-4 points ago

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Yeah, get revenge on the bitch. You may as well. Too rarely do these people get their comeuppance.