So what makes a girl good at sex?

zthirtytwo · 11 months

Enthusiasm for it.

victoryvines · 11 months

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Texxx81 · 11 months

Fix the hurt.

He'll enjoy sex much more if he knows you're enjoying it. If you haven't enjoyed sex in 2 years, I'd say you need to see a doctor and find out what hurts and why.

Projectile_Chunder · 11 months

A girl who is good at sex knows what she wants, how to communicate it, is willing to mount you take it, and wants to do the same for you in return.

For you two, maybe you need more foreplay. As you get more aroused things expand and such - I'm a guy so I only know the takehome, not the details.

ambiguity_resolution · 11 months

I believe what makes a girl good at sex is how interested she is in exploring her partner's body and learning the ways that make it tick. I think it's what makes anybody good at sex. If you are willing to touch, experiment, and learn with the person you're having sex with then you will win at sex. If you're out of ideas and feeling adventurous, there are lots of videos out there with an educational theme as well as a lot of amateur porn featuring real people having sex - occasionally you can see something that inspires you that you can try in bed, and if it works you can expand on it and make it your own.

But enough about being 'good' at sex. If I could suggest something, I would like to suggest that the two of you look at sex as an entire spectrum of things that involve pleasuring your partner. Anything is game, and while I know you'd both love to be having P in V sex, until you get that figured out the pain and anxiety is just not worth it - take P in V sex out of the equation for now. There are so many things you can do with your hands and mouths that don't cause pain, and if you do want those parts to touch anyway then let them touch - hop on top of him and grind on him, or have him grind away on you, but take the pressure off by putting the whole idea of P in V sex off-limits - as in both of you are not allowed to even try. Not off-limits forever, but off-limits until you get this thing figured out.

dave-gonzo · 11 months

Ahem....Taking it six ways from sunday and being excited about it. Talking dirty and being vocal and being excited about it. Enjoying herself in the moment and being excited about it.

basically being excited about it.

Obeacian · 11 months

Hey, from the way that your post is worded, it sounds like you put a lot of pressure on yourself about this sex issue like the "make sure you're wet" comment, etc..

Coming from an eastern medicine point of view.. Have you been under a lot of stress 2+ years ago? I mean, the vagina is supposed to be able to give birth even without an episiotomy. Why are you so concerned about making it good for him, when it obviously doesn't seem like it's good for you?

You know, guys just love it when the girl is seriously enjoying themselves with abandon, so why don't you just work on making it fantastic for yourself?

Also, try some acupuncture for stress relief. Hope this helps..

NarcoticNarcosis · 11 months

Personally, I'm a slow lover. I like to take my time to explore and show attention to my partner's body. When that's reciprocated, mind = blown.

dubbya · 11 months

It's not so much a move or any particular act. It's really more about having an in it to win it attitude. There is nothing hotter than a woman who is really enjoying herself and enthusiastic about sex. That and having fun with sex. Too many people take it way too seriously to genuinely enjoy themselves.

FitnessExpert · 11 months

Do you know why it started hurting for the past two years as opposed to the first two, and would you care to share it with us?

pebbles_147 · 11 months

I am a female and sometimes sex hurts for me too. I suggest that you take things slow. Use lube. That will help make you feel better. Also its more about the forplay then the actuall sex for a women. So just have him focus on you and making you feel comfortable. Also even just giving him a bj or handjob. Well male him feel good regardless if you have sex or not. Even just setting the mood would help, like lighting candles and being in a low lit area.

puffybaba · 11 months

Have you tried starting with a vibrator?

oblivious_human · 11 months

In our case, Doctors suggested to stop using condoms with spermicidal, as it was hurting my wife.

N0tMyRealAcct · 11 months

Your pain issue aside, for me it is an attitude thing.

I'm a dominant so I want my girl to be submissive, which essentially means that she'll do what she is told. But it is more, she needs to get off on it too. I guess that what separates me from an abusive asshole is that for me submission must be given, not taken.

Fortunately, there are many women that likes to be man handled and ordered around in bed.

Bend over. Turn around. Spread your legs. Get on your knees. Open your mouth.

So, as you can tell, this is not for all couples. I guess what I'm saying is that you might need to experiment a bit to find what works for you two. And remember, it is not only about pleasing him, even though I just sounded like a selfish and demanding guy, it has to work for you both.

On that topic, how come I'm not selfish if I'm just doing what I want and having my way? Well, truth is I pay attention to her pleasure a lot. The trick though, it works better for her if she thinks I'm just being a total brute.

Maxxters · 11 months

First off, what are you doing to figure out why it hurts and to fix the issue?? Then you can read through this article for tips for how any person can be a better sexual partner. You may also want to read this article on how women can be more active during sexual play.

shegusta · 11 months

For a long long time I did not enjoy either. A combination of a few things has changed that for me. After four years with your partner you should be pretty comfortable so if you are I suggest watching a video on pornhub at the female gspot. If you can find it while ridding him you wont want to get off (of him). The second thing that held me back sexual was a minor irritation from latex. I thought sex always hurt a bit, but my bf suggested otherwise and he was right. With these two new fixes im having the best sex of my life! Hopefully either or both of these will help you :)

Ihmhi · 11 months

The last thing us guys want to do is hurt you. When your doctor manages to figure out how to remedy your current health issues, ease back into sex with your boyfriend.

When things are working great again, surprise him. I think if I were the man in your situation, the hottest thing to me would be "Hey, let's make up for lost time".

Also, just because he's a dude doesn't mean that he doesn't have emotional needs. (I'm not assuming that you believe this, but I want to state a common misconception.) Spend a day together around the house just being together. Watch a movie, relax. Ignore unimportant stresses like work, bills, etc. and just be there for each other.

cultfavorite · 11 months

Have you tried a small sized dildo? Maybe work your way up?

teH_wuT · 11 months

Do the unexpected. If you're usually receptive, take charge for one. With my ex, I initiated almost everything. Before or during sex.

There was one time where she was on top and I was trying to come up to kiss her or play with her tits and she just pushed me down and kept the pressure on my chest and rode me even harder. Getting a boner thinking about it... Also, she initiated sex once..or well..at least seduced me once and it made the sex that much better.

Like some others said as well, enthusiasm.

[deleted] · 11 months

You might need a surgery to "expand" the space, so to speak. I had to have that done, and now I'm fine :)

facetothedawn · 11 months

Just eagerness to do so - you have a lucky bf

Spanky_Ham · 11 months

The same thing that gets you to Carnegie Hall.

equatorbit · 11 months

The fact that she will have it with me.

Steve190 · 11 months

Don't base what ''better sex'' is based on other people as it does and will differ from each person.

HoneyBadgerAtHeart · 11 months

Lube and relax. relax. relax. Or just wait till you see the doc is it some sort of disorder

chtrchtr_pussyeater · 11 months

Confidence. Uninhibited lust.

sewerthoughts · 11 months

Enthusiasm! Plain and simple. It makes you feel like a man. I believe I preform better when my dick is treated like a sex object. I rise to the occasion, so to speak.

avseventeen · 11 months

Work rate.

Worst_Lover_Ever · 11 months

Not laughing when it's over.

ImperfectTommy · 11 months

Enthusiasm is good. However, being able to understand the difference in how genders get aroused and being keen enough to know, without words, what is working and what is not is also important. Imagine someone with boundless energy and no understanding of what they are doing and lacking the capacity to notice a mis-step and you may understand what I'm talking about.

mikeyboii64 · 11 months

Just be happy, urself and enjoy it. And by be urself, i don't mean act in anyway. Just enjoy it. Personally I like it when we stuff up and laugh.

dj_boy-Wonder · 11 months

Most men like a girl who doesn't just let them do whatever they wanna do to her but shell do it to herself.

kurbstomp2984 · 11 months

Getting her to wrap her head around the concept that there is no such thing as TOO MUCH spit.

duramater4 · 11 months

That she is into it and wants me

HeyFunkyPianist · 11 months

Confidence. That is all.

JohnnyFriday · 11 months

Just do some stretches and soon you can do this.

pebbles_147 · 11 months

The doctor will def be able to help u. And give u tools to loosin it. Also watch mtv.com true life's episode about girls who can't have sex bc it hurts

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